Human politics is a slippery slope. Everyone is always jostling for position within the tribe and so when one perceives another as threatening her position in the tribe or that other has the position she wants ...well then. It is very human. I think all an individual can do is pursue greater self awareness and generally this improves one's awareness overall. It allows one to see beyond words and ploys to motivation. What I have discovered is that very few know what motivates them. Woman B probably saw herself as righting an injustice when in reality she was attacking an innocent for her own self-interest.
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I agree, I have come to believe that lady B is a very jealous person. I had never thought of it all in a tribe perspective but you're right.
Humans generally run patterned thinking. Lady B is always on the lookout for enemies and those she can manipulate to her side of things. I'd be leery of her. But of course, she probably also possesses more endearing traits. I had an ex-boyfriend who was like this, only worse. He would work everyone in both ways. So not only was he getting your 'obedience' with charm and playing on your prejudice. When you were not looking he was turning everyone else against you with gossip and the sharing of how he had provoked you into certain behaviour. But he left out how he had provoked you and he wasn't above gaslighting. He managed to manipulate almost everyone around him. He was the most insecure person I've ever met ... by far. Perhaps, Lady B is not this bad but be on the lookout.
I have very little to do with her because I think she is much like that. I've seen her 'stab' her friends in the back too many times. I only deal with her when work calls for it and I try not to get drawn into any real conversation with her. I often turn the conversation to asking about her grandchildren and that subject keeps her busy. :P
I'm so sorry you had an ex like that.
No worries ... he was a very good learning experience and as you can imagine we did not last long. Alas he continues to 'mine' other unsuspecting females. To your Lady B ... do as you do ... keep her sweet:)