The Silver Bloggers Chronicles #15: Memories of My Relationship with My Grandparents

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By fate, I was never able to know my grandparents in depth. In fact, I don't remember my mother's father, as he died when I was a few months old, and I barely remember my father's father, despite being taken to see him in my early childhood. You know, if you showed me a photograph of him today, I wouldn't recognize him. Why? Elementary, my dear Watson. An early divorce created barriers of time and distance. However, in return, I did enjoy the love and advice of my grandfather's brother, that is, my great-uncle. A true figure with a history of shipwrecks and political conspiracies that led to his imprisonment in retaliation. Yes, my uncle Manuel was a great figure, and in that sense, I cherish his memory.

On the other hand, my relationship with my grandmothers was opposed. Close and nurturing. So much so that, in a certain way, they fundamentally shaped who I am today.

Of my maternal grandmother, Luisana, my mother was the last child. So much so that, on one occasion, I heard my mother say that she never knew my grandmother as a young woman, having given birth to her after she was fifty. Imagine my memories of my grandmother: a little old woman bent over from the hard years of farming, but strong despite everything, who worked from dawn to dusk with a rake, weeding the fences and killing snakes when they crossed her path, well into her eighties. Born in 1901, she saw Halley's Comet pass by twice and, thanks to providence, heard from a distance the events of the great wars of the 20th century.

Today, some deny and sow doubt about the human moon landing. Well, I heard it for the first time from her, from "Mamabuela", when television was still in black and white, in the midst of the excitement of those supposed achievements. I close my eyes and see her clear, aged, and indelible face. Admiration, respect, and love.

From my paternal grandmother, Margarita, her legal name, we called her Mama Mery. I don't know why, but she liked her, and so did I. My father was her firstborn, and I was her first grandson. So, as you might guess, I received a lot of love and treatment that aroused envy among my sisters and cousins. So much so that to this day, some say I was her favorite…

A deep feeling fills me, and tears fill my eyes. I suffered deeply when he died—almost twenty years ago—and the nostalgia persists. Of course, I combat it with the beautiful memories we shared and the firm conviction that his essence accompanies me at all times, along with that of those who loved me and fulfilled their life in this world.

I always shared the months of July through September with Mama Mery until I came of age and became independent, entering a new stage of my life. I rejoiced when she looked for me and cried when, on my way home, I saw her depart from the platform of the suburban bus. She was warm and loving, unassuming, and without much ambition. Perhaps the only one I can identify with was her love of traveling the country's highways to share with those she loved and enjoyed serving with love.

This story has touched my soul. Mixed feelings of joy and sadness. I trust that yours, my dear companions on the road, are as comforting as mine, and that they make you relive the best of these wonderful beings, beyond light and shadows.

Greetings.


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The photo taken by me in Calvario Park (Caracas, Venezuela)

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Writing by @janaveda in Spanish and translated to English with www.deepl.com (free version)

The thumbnail was created from photos of my grandparents

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Por dictamen del destino no pude conocer en profundidad a mis abuelos. De hecho, no recuerdo al padre de mi madre, pues murió cuando yo tenía meses, y al padre de mi padre, apenas, a pesar de que en mi niñez temprana me llevaron a conocerlo. Saben, si hoy me mostraran una fotografía suya, sería incapaz de reconocerlo. ¿Por qué? Elemental, mi querido Watson. Un divorcio temprano estableció barreras de tiempo y distancia. No obstante, en compensación, sí disfruté del cariño y del consejo del hermano de mi abuelo, o sea, mi tío abuelo. Todo un referente con historia de naufragio y conspiraciones políticas que en represalia lo llevaron al cautiverio. Sí, mi tío Manuel era un gran personaje, y en tal sentido, guardo con cariño su recuerdo.

En cambio, la relación con mis abuelas fue diametralmente opuesta. Cercana y nutritiva. Tanto así que, de cierta manera, ellas moldearon, en lo fundamental, quién soy ahora.

De mi abuela materna, Luisana, mi madre fue su última hija. Es tanto así, que, en una ocasión, oí decir a mi madre que no la conoció su apariencia juvenil, puesto la tuvo pasado los cincuenta años. Imagina mis recuerdos de mi abuela: una viejecita encorvada por los duros años de granja, pero, sin embargo, recia, que trabajaba de sol a sol con una charapa desmalezando las cercas de alambres y matando culebras cuando se les atravesaban por delante cuando ya contaba con más de ochenta años. Nacida en 1901, vio pasar al cometa Halley en dos oportunidades, y escuchó, a la distancia, gracias a la providencia, los acontecimientos de las grandes guerras del siglo XX.

Hoy, hay quienes desmienten y siembran la duda sobre el alunizaje del hombre. Pues, a ella, a mamabuela, yo se lo escuché por primera vez, cuando aún la televisión era en blanco y negro, en plena efervescencia de aquellos supuestos logros. Cierro mis ojos y veo su rostro nítido, envejecido e imborrable. Admiración, respeto y amor.

De mi abuela paterna, Margarita, su nombre legal, la llamábamos Mamá Mery. No sé el motivo, pero a ella le gustaba, y a mí también. Mi padre fue su primogénito y yo su primer nieto. Así que, como intuirán, recibí mucho amor y un trato que despertaba envidia entre mis hermanas y primos. Hasta tal punto de que hasta hoy hay quienes dicen que yo fui su preferido…

Me embarga un profundo sentimiento y aguan mis ojos. Sufrí lo indecible cuando murió, ya está por cumplir veinte años, y el sentimiento de nostalgia persiste. Claro, la combato con los hermosos recuerdos compartidos y en la plena convicción de que su esencia me acompaña en todo momento, junto con las de los demás que me amaron y cumplieron el ciclo en este mundo.

Siempre compartí con Mamá Mery los meses de julio a septiembre hasta cumplir la mayoría de edad y emanciparme para entrar a una nueva etapa de mi vida. Gozaba cuando me buscaba y lloraba cuando, de vuelta a mi hogar, la veía partir desde el andén del autobús extraurbano. Era cálida y amorosa, sencilla y sin mucha ambición, quizás la única, fue el gusto por viajar por las carreteras del país para compartir con quienes quería y disfrutaba de servir con amor.

Esta crónica me ha tocado el alma. Sentimientos encontrados de alegría y de tristeza. Confío en que las suyas, mis queridos compañeros del camino, sean tan reconfortantes como las mías, y que les hagan revivir lo mejor de seres maravillosos, más allá de luces y sombras.

Saludos.


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La foto tomada por mí en el parque del Calvario (Caracas, Venezuela)

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Un escrito muy personal de @janaveda

La miniatura se creó a partir de fotos de mis abuelos


Gracias por leerme. Espero que este escrito sea de su agrado. Me gustaría mucho leer sus comentarios al respecto para enriquecerme con sus críticas.

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Such fond memories of your grandparents. Nowadays people are lucky to meet their grandparents because the lifespan is much shorter than it was before☹️

 6 days ago  

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Hello, @asiaymalay

Yes, fortunately, life expectancy has increased significantly. Today, grandparents and even great-grandparents share time with the youngest, sharing their love and the wisdom they've acquired over the years.

Have a blessed day.

After taking a deep breath while reading your story, I want to be a grandmother like that, so that my grandchildren will speak fondly of me. I'm sure they'll say, “Well, she had her personality,” ha ha ha.

I like to travel. My grandchildren are young, and I was starting to think that I wouldn't fulfill that role, but here I am, in love with my grandchildren. I hope you'll be a very special grandfather.

Grandparents are the best...

A big hug!

 6 days ago  

Hello, @lisfabian

You know, when I was writing the stories about my grandparents, a lump formed in my throat, and my heart became tiny. I held the peace with the smiles of the images treasured in my memory. Love transcends death.

If you like to travel, then travel, even with your grandchildren, no matter how small they are. I don't remember my first trip, but I've heard about it. I was barely six months old when my paternal grandmother took me with her to the capital. I don't remember, but it moves me to know now; I know how much she loved me.

Thank you for such kind words.

Have a blessed day.

You just succeeded in making me feel so emotional 🥺.
Of all, I know without doubt that I love your paternal granny more. I could feel how much of the love she has for you just by reading through.

Time doesn't stop for us; it drags us along. Make the most of it.

Oh how much I love this ☺️. Time truly doesn't wait for anyone. We can only but make the most of it 😊.

 6 days ago  

Hello, @soma18

Yes, my Mama Mery was a very special person. Of course, my Grandma Luisana was too, in her own way. I never compared their love; I just enjoyed it, and I continue to enjoy it beyond physical death, because spiritually, they are more alive than ever. At least, that's what I believe.

Make the most of the here and now; there will be plenty of time for everything else later.

Thank you, I really liked your comment.

Greetings.

Yhhhh.... Such pure love can't just be compared and when being showered on us, we get to enjoy and hold onto every moment of it.

I'm glad I was able to pop in my thought ☺️.

Hello! Dear Javier @janaveda.
I'm glad you have fond memories of your grandparents, especially your grandmothers.
In my case, I only knew my maternal grandmother, who wasn't very affectionate. I don't know if it was because of her ailments or the many hardships she endured.
She was born at the turn of the century in a town without electricity, from where she left at age 9 to work in the capital. After the Civil War, she was widowed with three very young daughters. And her favorite grandchild was my cousin, who was born before her.
At least my children enjoyed their four grandparents.
A big hug.

¡Hola! Querido Javier @janaveda.
Me alegra que tengas buenos recuerdos de tus abuelos, especialmente de tus abuelas.
En mi caso, solo conocí a mi abuela materna, que no era muy cariñosa. No sé si fue por sus dolencias o por las muchas penurias que pasó.
Nació a principios de siglo en un pueblo sin electricidad, de donde se fue a los 9 años a trabajar a la capital. Tras la Guerra Civil, enviudó con tres hijas muy pequeñas. Y su nieta favorita fue mi prima, que nació antes que ella.
Al menos mis hijos disfrutaron de sus cuatro abuelos.
Un fuerte abrazo.

 6 days ago  

Hello, Félix

Yes, valuable memories indeed, my friend.

For your part, I'm sorry you missed that experience. But that's the way the world is! What can we do? At least your children experienced what you couldn't. You know, in one of the comments on this thread, it was said that thanks to the increase in human life expectancy, intergenerational contact is greater. And fortunately, we live in this time. I trust the elites won't try to destroy it with all the things we fear today.

In the meantime, as you said before, let's live happily, enjoying what we have. (Forgive my way of expressing how I interpret your ideas, ha ha ha)

Best regards, @felixmarranz


Hola, Félix

Sí, recuerdos valiosos sin duda, mi amigo.

Por tu parte, lamento que te hayas perdido esa experiencia. ¡Pero así es el mundo! ¡Qué le vamos a hacer! Al menos, tus hijos vivieron lo que tú no pudiste. Sabes, en uno de los comentarios de este hilo, se dijo que gracias al aumento de la esperanza de vida de los seres humanos, el contacto intergeneracional es mayor. Y por fortuna, nosotros vivimos esta época. Confío en que las élites no se empeñen en destruirlo con todas esas cosas que se temen en la actualidad.

Mientras tanto, como bien has dicho anteriormente, vivamos alegres disfrutando de lo que se tiene. (Disculpa mi forma de expresar sobre cómo interpreto tus ideas, ja, ja, ja)

Saludos, @felixmarranz.

Hello @janaveda

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 4 days ago  

Thank you, @asiaymalay and the Silver Bloggers team, for your support.

You're welcome🙂.

These was such a great read. You really had some fond memories of them.

 2 days ago  

Thanks, @amiegeoffrey.

Have a great weekend!