My Three Anchors #LOH Contest 251#

Good day ladies, trust we are having a fruitful day, its my first post here and am super excited.

When I read through some posts from the #LOH Contest 251 and saw the topic for the week’s discussion, I instantly knew it wasn’t a coincidence. I had just finished writing about my journey to self-discovery, one that highlighted values as one of the cardinal points in answering the “Who am I?” question.

I was so excited and my confirmation was when i saw @temmylade's invitation, i decided right there to join the contest, not only to meet other amazing ladies in the @LOH community but also to share what I represent and the values that have molded me over the years.

Integrity

The first value that has shaped me and given me a strong sense of identity is integrity. For me, integrity goes beyond honesty, it is about being a woman of my words. There have been several moments in my life when this value has spoken for me, even in my absence. I have learned never to compromise my integrity for anything, because to me it is priceless. Upholding it has become part of my identity, opening doors to opportunities and blessings that money cannot buy. I am deeply grateful for this, and I pray for the grace to instill the same value in my children.

Resilience

The second value that anchors me is resilience. As a person living with a chronic blood disorder—sickle cell—I often wonder where I would be today without resilience. Life already comes with its share of burdens, but living with this condition requires an even thicker skin to weather the storms. Resilience has pulled me through situations that claimed the lives of others, giving me strength to keep going and never give up because I know I have something to offer the world.

This value has taught me that it is okay to have low moments—to cry, scream, or let it all out if it helps—but it is not okay to remain stuck there. Every challenge becomes, for me, not a permanent barrier but a temporary setback. Resilience continues to mold me, pushing me closer to my goals and reminding me that my story isn’t over.

Empathy

The third value I hold dearly is empathy. Living with chronic pain from sickle cell has taught me to see life through the lens of others. Empathy has helped me build stronger, more meaningful relationships because I make an effort to truly understand and put myself in people’s shoes. For me, it goes deeper than compassion, it is about patience, understanding, and genuine connection.

Experiencing pain has made me realize how powerful it is to treat others with kindness, not just because it is right, but because it could be exactly what they need to keep moving forward. Empathy, for me, is both a gift and a guide.

These three values, Integrity, Resilience, and Empathy, are the pillars of my life. I don’t think I could do life without them. They continue to shape my identity, guide my actions, and strengthen my relationships. My prayer is always that I will be able to pass these same values on to my children, so they too can stand firmly on these pillars as they navigate life.

Thank you for reading. 💜