For a long time now I've worked very hard at making sure I have good friends who are friends for the right reasons. This means I don't have copious amounts of friends; rather, I am selective and cautious with whom I let into that small group of people and I believe those I have around me are people I can rely upon. It can be tough sometimes as there's many people out there I like, but handing trust over to someone is not something I do easily.
I recently had cause to rely on a friend who I've known for many years and while I do not like asking for help I am not too proud to know when I need to.
She came to my aid and together we worked through the situation that would have been complicated and difficult for me to address on my own. I thanked her appropriately financially and, as I'd expected, she told me it was unnecessary however I insisted as she'd given me professional assistance that would ordinarily cost money.
In this case, her direct help was what I needed but in so many cases the help a friend gives isn't as direct - the value in the help they offer comes through the confidence I feel in having them there to help, their support. The emotional support from a friend, and just having that person there is something I value greatly and it's one of the main reasons I keep my friend's group to a small and carefully selected few that I know I can rely upon when I need to and whom I'd offer the same unswerving support to in return.
I feel the same way. Actually, I only have two really close friends, but I have a few other people I can trust if I need help, and I know they would come to me if the situation were reversed. I think it's much better to have a small group of friends because it builds trust.
Hugs, Becca.💗
Two is a good manageable number and if they're good friends it avoids the potential for complications that come from a larger friends group.
Becca 🌷
Exactly, one of them has been my friend for 29 years, and she is also my representative, so I trust her. And she is a treasure to have as a friend.💗
Similar situation for me, I don't have dozens of close friends. The friends that I do have, we support each other through everything and are always there for each other. Sometimes I marvel when I see groups of friends out to eat with 8-10 people together. It's rare that I am in a situation like that.
Glad to hear that your friend came to your aid in your recent situation. It's important to have friends like that in your life.
8-10 sounds like far too many for me as well; it's not like I don't have acquaintances, but those I call true friends are few. I'm not sure about others, but I have felt it's quite odd in the past, but the more I see and hear, I think it's the best way to go.
Thank you for your comment, I appreciate that you took the time.
Becca 🌷
It is rare to have more than a few people in your life who you can turn to for help at any time of the day or night.
I am still in the company of 4 friends with whom I have been hanging out for 40 years.
Besides them, I had two other friends with whom I could share secrets, but as you already know, male-female friendships are complicated and their moving to distant countries and starting families completely alienated us, reducing us to occasional chatting and exchanging photos (without the possibility of mutual help...).
I think I recall you mentioning your friends group some time ago, it's quite nice that you've all stayed in contact. I think it's reasonably rare for people to remain friends like that these days.
Becca 🌷
You are right 🙂
I'm looking forward to the weekend.
We arranged a reunion for Saturday evening - it's one of our friends' birthdays.