Hello again, people! Hope you're having a nice afternoon.
As always, these prompts get me to the core, so here I am writing a little piece of me.
Are you confident and outgoing or shy and reserved? Explain either way, and also how that aspect of your personality has worked well or badly for you in your adult life.
To answer this question, I need to dive in my past.
Since I was a little kid, I used to be shy. I didn't have so many friends while growing up, and I guess that's why I accepted all kinds of treatment towards me from many people.
I, surely, wasn't confident at all, and I was very introverted. I wasn't able to speak my mind, and every plan my friends had, I just went with it. Imagine being like this and having all the pressure of your peers. In high school, I attended to parties I didn't even want to be. I drank alcohol because I was trying to be someone else, not this shy person, and I allowed people often to have an opinion in the things I wanted.
Fortunately, I gained some maturity when I went to college. I met great people. Authentic people who listened to me, and let me have my own opinions. People that encouraged me to do the things I like, to try new activities. People who were willing to read my first drafts of creative writing, and still do it. With this people, something in my life changed. I felt confident, I felt heard and worthy.
So, I learned that part of your life changes when you meet the right people. They can help to mold your personality, although I'll all depends on your own decisions to make those changes. Now, I feel like I'm more outgoing and extroverted, though sometimes I get shy depending on the place I'm in.
Now, I laugh more, I talk to people and I can give my opinions, my arguments, and perspective. I am able to give some advice and listen to others without making any assumptions.
This change had helped me a lot in my adult life, because I am more assertive at the moment of communicating with others. I am also mature enough to handle themes I dislike, but also being open-minded. In this time, when I see how people still have a difficult time to communicate, it's when I feel grateful for the changes I made throughout these years.
Hello,
My experience tells me that every human being goes through these kinds of situations. Sometimes they are overcome quickly, other times they are not. Shyness, as you say, leads us to do things we don't want to do because we don't want to impose our thoughts on others.
It's great that you learned to value yourself, found people who supported you, and gained confidence in yourself.
It's good to get to know you, your tastes, and what you want to achieve, to learn that we are all unique beings and that this leads us to live with people of different mindsets.
Best regards
I totally agree with you. I also think that's what makes us good friends and good people. We learn to love others without trying to make them change who they are. If people want to change for the better, it will be because they want to, not because we impose it on them. We human beings are so complicated, but I know that if we put our minds to it, we can be good.
Thank you.
Gracias
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