We all see things differently and have different approaches to life and this diversity is what makes us unique.
Tell us about a moment when you realized it was okay to ask for help. How did it change your perspective, your day, or your life?
A lot of people see asking for help as a sign of weakness while in actual sense, it’s a sign of strength.
You can’t always blame people for not asking for help or being skeptical about it. Sometimes the way we were raised plays a huge role in making us not ask for help. For example, I grew up in a family where we were taught to be independent at a very young age and I don’t mean only financially independent. I am talking about doing things yourself without whining or asking people for help. Naturally asking for help feels somewhat difficult for me.
I do ask for help every now and then but I resort to that whenever I have tried everything within my power.
My inability to ask for help stems from feeling bad for the next person. I have always believed that asking for help means adding to the other person’s problem.
Life keeps hitting us with different problems every day and it’s only fair I fix my problem rather than tossing it to the next person.
It’s funny how some people are more than willing to help us whenever we ask for help and you’d be surprised you got worried for nothing.
Over time, I got to understand that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but rather a sign of courage and strength.
Knowing that you can’t do a particular thing and reaching out for help is awesome. You’re leaving your pride aside and seeking answers, and that is wonderful. It simply means that you are willing to learn from the other person.
I arrived at this conclusion after my experience with a friend.
So, I had an important event to plan for my firm.
I needed help with so many things. I stayed up all night thinking and trying to solve the problem but nothing came to my mind. I scrolled through my contacts but I just couldn’t bring myself to ask anyone as I was scared of disappointment and anyone laughing at me.
The day of the event was close and I had to speak up, I had to ask for help.
You know in a wrestling match when the wrestler in the ring taps his colleague outside for help? That’s what I did. I tapped my friend and it took a few minutes for her to solve the problem and also making me see the bigger picture.
Her reply didn’t just solve one challenge but it solved multiple challenges and if I had tapped this friend of mine long before that time, I wouldn’t have spent several days thinking and sulking.
Asking for help teaches you how to be brave. You push all the “Whatifs” aside and give it a shot, you don’t know if it’s going to work or not but you do it anyways and if that isn’t bravery I don’t know what is.
It’s okay to ask for help whenever you feel you’re not capable of doing something but very wrong to abuse or take advantage of people’s kindness, so be careful.
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I totally can relate to the part about being raised to be super independent. That mindset of "don’t burden anyone, just figure it out yourself" can feel like second nature, even when you're literally drowning. One moment that really changed my own mindset about asking for help was during a time when I was juggling way too much..... work, family, my mental health and trying to act like I had it all under control. But I didn’t. I broke down one night and finally called a friend. Just saying "I’m not okay, can you talk?" felt like ripping off heavy armor I’d been dragging around. Her support didn’t just soothe my stress, it shifted how I viewed vulnerability..... it was strength, not weakness. That night taught me that asking for help is actually an act of self respect. Thanks so much for sharing Mentor 😒
Now ain't you such a brave bear🫂🫂
It's okay to ask for help every now and then as long as we don't abuse it or take people's kindness for granted.
Thanks for reading Seun❤️
Vulnerability is under talked about.... Hmmm.... because it leverage on who we are. Sometimes we react or reach out in ways that, from the outside, might look like we're taking people for granted… but really, it’s just us trying to survive the weight of what we’re feeling.
Lol... See me reflecting too much on stuffs. Thanks for those beautiful words, have an amazing Thursday.
I think the main reason why people find it hard is what you said about not knowing if you’re going to receive the help or not. I think that bruises people’s ego. And I think that’s how people become brave just like you said. A little bruises on your ego here and there. Hehe.
Hehehe Wouldn't hurt right?😃
Obviously some see that to mean a sign of weakness and vulnerability....meanwhile its totally okay ...just why some are skeptical about it is the fear of mean disappointed or rejected...
I absolutely agree with you, but sometimes we just need to give it a shot regardless.
Yeah