“They Call Us Church Boys”

Lately, I’ve heard it a lot. “You don’t give us attention anymore.”
Some even laugh and say, “You’ve turned into one of those church boys.”

Honestly, it used to bother me a little. I wondered if I was truly changing too fast or maybe neglecting people who once mattered. But over time, I’ve come to understand something deeper. When your priorities shift, people’s perceptions will too.

It’s not that I stopped caring about people. I just started caring more about my peace, my growth, and my relationship with God. I used to be available for almost everyone, always chatting, hanging out, replying fast, and keeping up with every gist. But somewhere along the line, I realized I was pouring out too much and receiving so little that nourished my spirit.

Now, I’ve learned to be still. To spend more time with God, to understand myself, and to focus on what truly matters.
That doesn’t make me too spiritual. It just means I’m learning balance.

But of course, not everyone understands that. Some people feel ignored. Others think I’m now acting “holier than thou.” But it’s funny, I’m not even trying to be perfect. I’m just trying to be real, to live in a way that aligns with my faith and my purpose.

Being called a “church boy” used to sound like a mockery, but now I see it differently. If loving God, serving in church, and finding joy in His presence makes me a church boy, then I’ll take it proudly. Because honestly, I’ve found something more fulfilling than endless chats and shallow friendships. I’ve found peace.

And that peace changes everything.
It changes what you want to talk about.
It changes how you spend your evenings.
It changes how you handle pain, rejection, and pressure.

Sometimes, I still miss the old days, the random laughter, the silly jokes, the constant calls. But when I look at the man I’m becoming, I know it’s worth it. I’d rather be growing quietly than losing myself loudly.

So to everyone who says I don’t give enough attention anymore, it’s not that I’ve forgotten you. I’m just becoming more intentional with my time and my energy. I’m learning that being close to God doesn’t mean being far from people; it just means learning to love from a deeper place.

If that makes me a “church boy,” then so be it.
Because one day, when life hits harder, you’ll understand. The peace I’m protecting is the peace you’ll also need.