"Indeed, no one can thwart the purposes of your mind—for they can't be touched by fire, steel, tyranny, slander, or anything." —MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 8.41
Life on Earth is not always easy and it’s infinitely more difficult if we’re convinced we're emotionally fragile or don’t have a reverse clause (back-up plan). How we deal with life’s challenges and hardships plays an important role in the levels of success and happiness we get to experience in life.
Living fully means facing betrayal or abandonment by partners and friends, disappointment in others (and sometimes ourselves), and obstacles larger than we ever imagined. The key is to live authentically—to summon the courage to show up, confront life’s challenges, and adapt by learning from them. This is evolution at its core, and humans excel at it like few other species on this planet. We just need occasional reminders.
One thing is for sure, we will be tested, but remember you have the power within you to activate that reverse clause and redirect your life’s course. There’s no shame in it, this is the key to living our very best life.
It’s important to take a mental audit of your life from time-to-time and ask a hard question, What people and/or things in my life are continually detracting from my joy and overall wellbeing? and then prune those branches, activate that all-important reverse clause. It’s difficult to be fragile when you’re agile. It’s imperative to decide when it’s in our best interest to make that all-important pivot.
For the coming week, set a notification on your mobile device for once during the morning and once in the afternoon (or write it on a Post-It Note and put it on your mirror), ask yourself…
What people and/or things in my life are continually detracting from my joy and overall wellbeing?
This will serve as a daily reminder throughout the next week
Be well, make the most of this day. Thank you for reading!
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We are animals of habit and sometimes we even stay with our partners, even if they detract from us, just because we are afraid of loneliness or starting from scratch. I remember that for a long time I had to relate to family members who were very toxic, just because they were “family”. When I realized that my peace of mind was above anyone else, I began to put distance. Hugs, my friend
That's true for a lot of people, I'd say. Rare is the person who has the courage to make the hard choices. So many are afraid of "blowing up their lives" but I'd say what life? Prioritizing your peace is a gigantic pivot—once you do this everything changes. Have a great week Nancy!
I'll have to see what I can come up with for this one. I have a feeling the real answers are going to take some time and probably won't really be the first thing I think of.
Is there anything that fills you with dread, despair, or lowers your self-esteem? Those are always the places I start looking.
Good thoughts. I will think about that! I am sure there are plenty!
Indeed, challenges and hardhips we have faced during our life shapes the way we live.
More important is how we respond to those challenges and hardships.
It is exactly like this, we have to have two plans to live a good life. If we are rejected from somewhere, it can be any relationship. No matter how hard we work, if we do not get loyalty in this relationship, we will definitely get worried for some time and start being sad. If we have another option, we will not be so sad, we will not be worried. And the same thing if we look at our finances too, we should always have different sources of income. If one ends, our income will come from another source, this will reduce our mental tension.
There's resilience in diversification.
#hive #posh